The Truth about Mom burnout.

Ok y’all sit back and buckle up for a whirlwind.

Mommas out there!! This one is for you.

What does it mean to be a mom? It means weird questions, kids that constantly want to fight with you or each other, never ending random trips to the store for ABSOLUTELY nothing. It means chaos and destruction. It means laughter and joy. It means you get to feel every single emotion that humans are capable of feeling within a single day. Rage, love, joy, frustration, irritability, confusion, and every combo in between.

There is one truth that I have found through my journey as a decca-mom. And it is that while I love my children more than life itself, I really don’t like them sometimes, and that is ok. Something that I think a lot of parents forget. Sometimes we are not going to like our kids. We’re not supposed to like them every minute of every day for the entirety of their existence.

What are we supposed to do? We’re supposed to love them. We’re supposed to teach them. We’re supposed to prepare them for life without us. We’re supposed to teach them how to keep their shit together when they feel like falling apart. We are not supposed to like them ALL of the time. Let’s be real, it’s unrealistic to expect to like someone 100% of the time. Same rules apply to our kids.

The reason that I want to talk about this is because of how much it can affect our mentality as mom. It can weigh on us if we lose sight of this simple human trait. It can make us feel like we are failures because sometimes we really want to make our kids leave us the hell alone.

We are constantly bombarded with the needs of the kids and the family, and we forget to take time to care for ourselves. We are constantly distracted with tending to the wants and wishes of everyone else. We have to play taxi, doctor, referee, chef, maid, laundry, chauffer, and so much more. We are expected to put time into ourselves, and we often don’t have the time to do so.

It all becomes so very maddening. And this usually triggers the mom burnout. When we feel like we are running on E all of the time. We don’t have anything to give because we done gave it all away. It’s something that every mom will go through. The first step to getting through it? Accepting that it is going to happen.